Thursday, April 9, 2015

Repeat After Me

Okay, sit back, get comfortable, clear your throat and repeat after me . . .

The promise of Birth Mother privacy is a lie!

Let’s say it one more time . . .

The promise of Birth Mother privacy is a lie!

I have yet, in the many years I’ve been a part of the fight for Adoptee Rights and Adoption Reform, come across a First (Birth) Mom who was promised privacy.  And I have never seen a single piece of legal paper guaranteeing such a thing.

If you are a First Mom who claims you were promised privacy, you are either lying or were lied to.  It is just that simple.

To carry out a promise of privacy for First Moms it would mean our children’s original birth certificates would have to be sealed the moment we put pen to paper and sign the relinquishment papers.  It would be based on our action of giving up our rights and nothing else.

But, not only does that not happen, but there is not a SINGLE law in the United States even allowing for that to happen.  It just can’t be done.  Not a single court in this country of ours would approve such a request regardless of any suggestion of promised privacy.  They can’t because there is nothing that allows them too.

Sealing away our children’s birth certificates rests solely on the actions of the couples petitioning to adopt our children.  It’s done as part of their process, not ours.  And has always been meant for their benefit.  Not ours and definitely not our children.

It has been said over and over AND OVER again . . . the myth of Birth Mother privacy is nothing more than the Adoption Industry using us to fight against Adoptees being given their equal rights.  They don’t give a damn about us.  They don’t give a damn about our children.  We are just their scapegoat.  The easy targets they use as an excuse to deny Adoptees what the rest of us take for granted.

And, honestly, if you are a First Mom who has the warped belief that your desire for so-called privacy justifies your own child being denied their equal rights than you are the one with the problem, not your child.

And if you are a general part of society believing these lies, please know you are being played for a fool.  The industry knows, for the most part, we are going to believe what we are told – especially if they add a little to tug on your heart-strings – rather than researching the truth for ourselves.  But the truth doesn’t change, regardless of the pretty bow the industry might try putting on it . . .

The promise of Birth Mother privacy is a lie!

It’s simple.  It’s true.  So let’s stop allowing it to be used as a reason to deny Adoptees their equal rights.